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Parents of Teens Archives - Parents of Teens

SUMMER IDEAS/AND THEN THERE’S READING!

If it were me I would find it refreshing to find a new list of what might keep my kids occupied and playing together during the summer.  Let me toss out a few: In Arizona a friend put together a summer bowling league for about 25 of the kids my kids knew.  Every Tuesday we had that to look forward to and it was an “inside” activity, out of the indescribable Arizona heat.   Didn’t cost us a ton and was so worth it to have it to look forward to each week.   I’m sharing that idea because I admire my friend’s investment in my life and in my kids’ lives.  Thank you, Ginny.   Invest in sidewalk chalk and let your kids draw on your driveway, maybe in the cooler part of the day.  We even played hop-scotch.  Remember that game? Here are a few other things I remember doing, even though it was hot outside. 1. We used ice cube trays, added Kool Aid, froze...

SUMMER AND SOCIAL MEDIA ISSUES

During the hot summers of Arizona and Texas so many parents will be allowing a variety of social media apps or websites to babysit their kids.  I get that.  If my kids were still home during the summers we would be talking about limits and boundaries about which ones are acceptable and which ones were ones we needed to talk about and avoid.  And why.   And I would be setting time limits.  Maybe I could do another post and freshen all our memories about what one can do besides be on the computer during hot days.  I need the reminder myself.   But in the meantime here’s some info to pass along…   Snapchat is one we’d talk about.  My new go-to regarding the scoop on social media and for educating parents is Adam McClane, as I have mentioned in a past Blog post.   If you want to get a clear look at the risks taken by anyone using Snapchat go to...

Pursue, Pursue, Pursue

  You’ve heard the phrase regarding real estate, “Location, location, location”. With teens, regarding what they need from us is, “Relationship, relationship, relationship”. Or think, “Pursue, pursue, pursue”.  Sometimes our teens will act as if we are the last person they want to see.   They just don’t know it, but the perils of the adolescent years require leadership by us whether they act like they want to spend time with us or not.  That is why as the adult we pursue them.   Creating a nurturing and caring relationship with him or her and being emotionally engaged creates fertile ground on which to pursue and train his or her heart. It requires perseverance because when our kids act like they don’t want us around it is so easy to tell ourselves that we are off the hook.  That is why I’m writing this.  We are...

I’M SORRY…OR, I WAS WRONG. WILL YOU FORGIVE ME?

  When I facilitate class on the topic of Unresolved Anger, one of the traps of adolescence, I emphasize that learning to ask one’s  child or teen for forgiveness goes beyond  saying “I’m sorry”.  Of course, the “I’m sorry” can be said in a sincere way and it can be very authentic.  However, if one chooses, one can go deeper.  Asking for forgiveness is taking responsibility for the hurt one has caused.  It is modeling a contrite heart, showing humility, and giving your teen a chance to practice something biblical…forgiving.   And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32   You know how it can go.  A parent says, “I’m sorry”, and then the teen many times may say, “It’s ok, Dad” or “It’s ok,...

CREATIVE JOURNALING

  So, back to the journal idea.  Here are ways shared during classes  about how some parents introduced the journal to their teen or pre-teen: 1.  My daughter was taking piano lessons in a serious way so when I found a journal which was covered in treble and bass clefs I grabbed it.  So, her journal seemed even more tailor-made, just for her. 2.  One mom shared that she decided to introduce the concept pretty early in one of her children’s lives.  Some of the writing her son sent to her wasn’t with letters…he drew pictures for her.  Her purpose was to make the journal a natural part of their relationship…before their relationship might have really needed an extra way of communicating to get past some of the teen hurdles. 3.  Another class member decided to present the journal to her daughter as part of her birthday present. 4.  An idea might be to introduce...

THE JOURNAL IDEA

One of the longest-lasting suggestions that has come from classes that has worked for parents to communicate with one of their teens has been using a journal.  You know those journals…the books with a variety of covers and lots of empty pages inside. My friend, Robyn, suggested this idea and she explained to our class how it could be used as an extra tool to communicate with a teen , especially when talking might not be that easy.  Almost every mom I have shared this idea with has been eager to give it a try. Here’s the way it works.  On the front page of an empty journal write your daughter or son a note, explaining how you and she or he can use it together.  You might say something like, “Dear Missy,  I found this journal just for you and I to share together.  We can take turns writing in it.  Sometimes you may have something you want to say to me but you want to...